Let’s be real.
We’ve been sold this idea since forever: “Chase your dreams, be happy, and everything will work out.”
Sounds nice on a Pinterest board. But here’s the tea:
The pursuit of happiness is kinda sus.
Before you cancel this blog, hear me out.
The Problem with Chasing Happiness
We’re out here thinking happiness is the ultimate goal—like it’s some golden trophy waiting at the end of a rainbow.
But let’s be honest:
You finally get the new phone, the relationship, the followers, the car, the job—and then what?
You’re lit for 3.5 seconds… then back to overthinking at 2 a.m. in your room.
That’s because happiness, as we’ve been taught, is lowkey a trap.
It’s always based on something outside of you—something that can change, fade, ghost you, or break.
So What’s the Real Quest?
Let’s switch it up.
Instead of asking:
“What will make me happy?”
Ask:
“Who even am I beneath all this noise?”
That’s the real quest, the main storyline, the ultimate side quest that turns into the main mission:
Discovering your true self.
Because when you know yourself—like really know yourself—you stop needing every little thing to go your way in order to feel peace.
You stop chasing validation like it’s a limited drop.
You move different. You glow different. You are different.
Real Happiness Is a Byproduct
We’re not saying happiness is fake. But chasing it directly is like trying to catch sunlight with your bare hands.
When you align with your inner truth, your values, your purpose—happiness shows up uninvited. It just walks in like, “Yo, I live here now.”
True happiness = inner peace + knowing who you actually are.
Not just good vibes only
but real alignment.
TL;DR
- Chasing happiness without knowing yourself is like downloading an app with no phone.
- External stuff is cute, but internal peace is the real flex.
- The real pursuit isn’t happiness—it’s you.
- Find yourself, and happiness might just slide into your DMs.
Final Vibe Check
“The pursuit of happiness without the pursuit of your true self is the real fallacy.”
– a wise homie (aka you, maybe)