Wordless reality is a realm of pure experience, untouched by the confines of speech or the structures of thought. It’s where essence precedes expression and where being transcends description. In this reality, sensations and perceptions exist in their rawest form, unmediated by the mind’s tendency to categorize or interpret. This is a space of direct knowing, a profound silence that speaks louder than words, where the essence of all existence is felt but not spoken. It’s akin to the still moments just before dawn, where the world exists in a hushed anticipation, or the deep calm at the bottom of the ocean, untouched by the storms above. In trying to articulate what is inherently wordless, we brush against the ineffable, where understanding is felt rather than formed.
Beauty Versus Fear
Fear, when left unchecked, becomes the locked door that keeps us from stepping into the unknown. It halts progress, keeps us trapped in cycles of hesitation, and blinds us to opportunities that lie just beyond our comfort zones. However, fear also serves a purpose—it protects us, forcing us to assess risk and make careful decisions rather than rushing into danger unprepared.
On the other hand, beauty—whether in nature, art, love, or ideas—becomes a gateway to everything expansive. It opens the heart, fuels inspiration, and allows us to see beyond limitations. Yet, beauty is subjective, and what one defines as beautiful can shape their reality in vastly different ways. If beauty is sought without grounding, it can lead to illusion or a detachment from the challenges that must be faced.
Ultimately, whether we proceed or hold back depends on what we choose to embrace: the comfort of a locked door or the uncertainty of an open gateway. Both paths have their merits, and the key is knowing when to challenge fear and when to let it guide us wisely.
To Be or Not to Be: The Awakening of Being
Shakespeare’s famous soliloquy, “To be, or not to be, that is the question”, arises from Hamlet’s contemplation of existence—whether to endure the suffering of life or to surrender to the unknown of death. In the context of spiritual being, this phrase can take on a deeper, more transcendent meaning.
“To be” is not merely to exist but to become aware of one’s true self—the eternal essence beyond the veil of form, beyond fleeting identities and suffering. It is the choice between awakening to being or remaining entangled in the illusions of the mind.
- To be is to embrace presence, to step into the depth of the Now, where life unfolds not as a series of struggles but as a dance of consciousness.
- Not to be is to stay asleep, to exist in a dream-like state of ego, attachment, and illusion—a life dictated by external forces rather than by the stillness of the soul.
Hamlet’s turmoil reflects the struggle every seeker faces: the pull of the conditioned self versus the call of the higher self. If we interpret his words spiritually, we see a question that goes beyond physical survival—it is the question of whether to awaken or to remain in illusion.
The Fear of the Unknown
In the soliloquy, Hamlet wonders if death is truly an escape or if it brings a new suffering, an unknown realm that may be worse than life itself. Spiritually, this can be likened to the fear of ego death—the fear of dissolving the false self and stepping into the vast, formless reality of pure being.
- To cling to the familiar (even if painful) is the choice of the conditioned mind.
- To let go and surrender is the choice of the awakened heart.
This is where suffering serves as a teacher. It is not an enemy but a guide, pointing toward something deeper. The dissolution of the false self—the “not to be” of ego—feels like annihilation at first, yet it is actually the path to true life.
Surrendering into Being
The question “To be or not to be?” ultimately asks: Do we live from presence, or do we continue in resistance? The one who chooses to be aligns with the eternal flow, allowing life to unfold without fear. The one who resists remains caught in mental suffering, always questioning, doubting, and fearing.
To be is to rest in stillness, to know that you are not just the waves but the vast ocean itself. It is not about escape but about full immersion in the Now, where nothing is missing, and everything is as it should be.
So, the seeker stands at the crossroads:
“To be”—to awaken, to shine, to embody presence.
Or “not to be”—to remain asleep in the dream of separation.
What do you choose?
Loyalty: What Is It All About?
Sometimes, people see loyalty as exclusive allegiance, while you see it as something that doesn’t have to create division or separateness. This is a deep spiritual conversation because it touches on attachment, ego, and unconditional love.
Loyalty Through a Spiritual Lens
From a higher perspective, true loyalty is not about exclusion, but about integrity. It’s about being true to your values while honoring the freedom and individuality of others.
- Loyalty Rooted in Fear vs. Love
- Fear-based loyalty says: If you associate with people I dislike, you are betraying me.
- Love-based loyalty says: I trust your heart and respect your choices, even if they differ from mine.
- The Illusion of Separation
- Your friend may see relationships in a “us vs. them” way, where being loyal means choosing sides.
- You recognize that all beings are interconnected—we don’t have to create separation to be true to those we love.
- Boundaries vs. Control
- It’s okay for your friend to have personal boundaries—they may not want to associate with certain people for their own reasons.
- But expecting you to mirror their boundaries crosses into control rather than mutual respect.
How to Navigate This as a Healer
- Affirm Your Integrity: “I value our friendship deeply, and my connection with others doesn’t take away from that.”
- Help Them See the Bigger Picture: “I don’t see friendships as choosing sides. If I build bridges, it doesn’t mean I’m tearing ours down.”
- Respect Their Feelings, But Hold Your Truth: “I understand this is important to you, and I honor that. At the same time, I hope you trust my heart in this.”
This can be an opportunity for healing and expansion—if they are open to it. If not, that’s also their journey to walk.
Dimensions Of Inquiry
These are called interrogative words or question words in grammar. However, from a deeper, more philosophical or spiritual perspective, they can be seen as “dimensions of inquiry”—different lenses through which we seek understanding.
Each serves a different purpose:
• Why – The question of meaning and purpose (the root of wisdom).
• What – The question of essence and identity (the nature of things).
• Where – The question of location and direction (context and path).
• When – The question of time and timing (divine timing, cycles).
• How – The question of process and method (the journey, the way).
In spiritual traditions, “why” is often associated with the higher mind or soul’s quest, while “how” connects to wisdom in practice. These could also be considered aspects of contemplative inquiry—the practice of seeking truth through self-reflection and divine guidance.
The Chair That Wasn’t Mine
For years, I had the same chair at work. It wasn’t anything special—just a regular office chair, but it was my chair. It had molded to me over time, adjusting to the way I sat, the way I leaned, the way I thought. It was always there, predictable and comfortable, an unspoken companion in my daily routine.
But one morning, I walked into work and something felt off. I sat down and immediately noticed the difference. The cushion was firmer. The armrests were slightly higher. The chair I had known for years was gone—replaced by something that was not mine.
Annoyance bubbled up instantly. Who moved my chair? Why would someone switch it? I’ve used that chair forever! My mind raced, grasping for justifications for why this was unfair. As I sat there, adjusting, fidgeting, and silently resisting, I could feel something deeper stirring—attachment.
It was just a chair. A chair. But my mind had made it mine. My familiarity with it had turned into possession, and that possession had become comfort. And now, because something had shifted outside of my control, I was experiencing discomfort, frustration, and even a little resentment.
That’s when it hit me.
How often do we do this in life? How often do we latch onto things, mistaking familiarity for necessity? We cling to routines, relationships, identities, and objects, believing they define us. And when they change—or worse, disappear—we feel lost, disturbed, and sometimes even angry.
The truth is, the chair was never really mine. It had simply been where I placed myself day after day. Just like so many things in life, it was temporary. The only thing making this moment uncomfortable was my resistance to what is.
I took a deep breath and let go.
Let go of the expectation.
Let go of the attachment.
Let go of the illusion of control.
And just like that, the frustration dissolved. The chair didn’t need to change—I did.
From that moment forward, I saw everything a little differently. Every time I felt resistance rise in me, I asked, What am I holding onto? What am I afraid to release?
Because true freedom is not in holding on—it’s in knowing we were never meant to hold onto anything at all.
Gratitude: Questions To Reflect On
- What was one moment today that you felt grateful for, and why?
- Name a person who helped you this week. What did they do and how did it make you feel?
- What is something small that you often overlook, but truly appreciate when you think about it?
- When was the last time you felt thankful for something unexpected? Describe what happened.
- What is one way you can show gratitude towards someone this week?
- Think about a difficult situation. Can you find something in it that you are grateful for?
- What is an ability or skill you have that you are thankful for? How did it help you recently?
- Reflect on your surroundings. What is something in your environment you are grateful for today?
- Who is someone that you haven’t thanked recently but deserves your gratitude? Why?
- What is something you’re looking forward to, and why are you grateful for it?
These questions can prompt players to reflect on various aspects of gratitude in their lives, from interpersonal relationships to self-awareness and appreciation of the mundane.
Developing The Witness To The ‘I’ness Of You
Tools and Practices for Developing a Witness to Oneself
1. Mindfulness Meditation
- Practice being fully present and aware of your activities and surroundings without overreacting. Start with a few minutes of focusing on your breath or bodily sensations and gradually increase your meditation time.
2. Journaling
- Write down your thoughts and feelings regularly to observe your internal state without judgment. This helps in noticing patterns or triggers in your behavior.
3. Mindful Observation Exercises
- Choose a routine activity and practice focusing completely on the task. For example, pay attention to the sensations of washing dishes, like the texture and temperature of the water, and the sounds around you.
4. Retreats and Silent Meditation
- Participate in retreats or engage in silent meditation periods to deepen your capacity to observe your mental and emotional processes in an environment that minimizes external distractions.
5. Yoga and Breathwork
- Engage in yoga and controlled breathing exercises to calm the mind and facilitate the observation of your thoughts without attachment, harmonizing the body and mind.
6. Daily Reflection
- Spend a few minutes at the end of each day reflecting on your experiences and behaviors to develop a habit of observing your life’s narrative from a distance and recognizing patterns.
7. Reading and Listening to Spiritual Teachings
- Regularly engage with the wisdom of spiritual teachers through books, lectures, or podcasts to gain insights and reinforce the importance of developing a witnessing consciousness.
8. Mindful Listening and Speaking
- Practice listening to others without preparing your response while they speak, which cultivates presence and awareness of habitual mental responses. Also, practice mindful speaking by pausing before speaking, reflecting on the intention behind your words, and noticing your emotions.
Implementing these practices can help you develop the ability to witness yourself, leading to a more conscious and centered way of living.
Love Languages – A Tool For Transformation
The concept of the 5 Love Languages (words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch) is meant to help people understand how they give and receive love. However, it can also unintentionally reinforce a framework where people focus on compensating for a lack rather than expanding into love’s fullness.
If we view love as something we must receive in a specific way to feel whole, we risk reducing ourselves to a set of unmet needs. But if we approach love languages as a means to express love more fully—rather than just filling perceived voids—then they can become a tool for deeper connection rather than a limitation.
True love is expansive, beyond categories. It is not something we need to get but something we are. If we focus too much on how we receive love rather than how we embody love, we may unintentionally operate from a place of deficiency rather than abundance. What do you think?
Once unconscious beliefs about love and worthiness are identified, the next step is not just removing dependencies but transforming them into wholeness. Here’s a process that can help:
1. Awareness Without Judgment
Recognizing a dependency (such as needing affirmation or physical affection to feel loved) is powerful. Instead of rejecting it, observe it like a compassionate witness. Ask yourself:
- Where did this come from?
- What does this belief protect me from?
- How has it shaped my relationships?
2. Releasing the Illusion of Lack
Many dependencies are rooted in the belief that love must come from outside. The truth is, love is within you, always present. A simple practice is to pause whenever you feel the craving for external validation and ask:
- If I already had this love within me, how would I feel right now?
- How can I give this to myself?
This shifts the energy from seeking to being.
3. Reparenting Yourself
If your love dependency stems from unmet childhood needs, you can “reparent” yourself by offering what was missing.
- If you lacked encouragement, speak affirmations to yourself.
- If you lacked presence, practice deep self-connection through meditation.
- If you lacked physical affection, engage in self-care that nurtures your body (massage, movement, mindful touch).
The key is to become your own source of love, meeting yourself where others didn’t.
4. Expanding Love Beyond the Self
When love is no longer a dependency but a state of being, you naturally extend it outward. Instead of seeking, you overflow. Acts of kindness, deep presence, and giving without expectation become effortless.
This shift transforms relationships:
- You love freely, without attachment.
- You receive love without fear of losing it.
- You recognize that love is not transactional—it simply is.
5. Living as Love Itself
At the highest level, love is not something to be “received” but recognized as who you are. When you dissolve the illusion of separation, the longing disappears—not because you don’t experience love from others, but because you realize you were never without it.
Does this resonate with you? Where do you feel the greatest attachment in receiving love?
Embracing the Nian: A New Year’s Resolution to Confront Our Fears
Hello, wonderful souls!
As we step into another new year, full of promise and potential, let’s talk about a timeless tale from Chinese folklore—the legend of the Nian. This mythical beast, feared for its annual appearances, would emerge at the turn of the year to terrorize villages until they learned to chase it away with loud noises and bright lights.
But what if, instead of scaring away our own personal ‘Nians’ with metaphorical firecrackers, we chose to meet them face to face? What if we transformed our New Year’s resolution to not just ward off the beasts of fear and doubt, but to understand and conquer them?
Identify Your Nian
Our first step is to recognize our own beasts. What fears lurk in the shadows of your life? Is it the fear of failure, the anxiety of the unknown, or perhaps the dread of not being good enough? Naming your Nian diminishes its power—what you can identify, you can confront.
Understand Your Nian
Understanding your Nian is like demystifying a shadow. Dive deep into the why and how of your fears. Why do they hold power over you? How do they affect your daily life? This understanding is your light, turning the monstrous unknown into something tangible and manageable.
Confront Your Nian
Confrontation might sound daunting, but it’s about facing your fears with the support and tools you need to feel empowered. This could be through meditation, seeking counsel, or simply practicing bravery in small, everyday acts. Each act of bravery is a victory, a firecracker of your own, celebrating your courage.
Transform Your Nian
Finally, we transform our relationship with our fears from avoidance to empowerment. Each encounter with your Nian is an opportunity to grow stronger, more resilient. Like villagers who turned the night of terror into a festival of lights and sounds, you can transform your fear into a celebration of courage.
This year, let’s not just chase our fears away. Let’s meet them, understand them, and claim the immense power they hold over us as our own. Together, let’s turn every fear into a stepping stone towards the light of self-discovery and true empowerment.
Happy New Year to all, and to all a fearless year ahead!