Sometimes, people see loyalty as exclusive allegiance, while you see it as something that doesn’t have to create division or separateness. This is a deep spiritual conversation because it touches on attachment, ego, and unconditional love.
Loyalty Through a Spiritual Lens
From a higher perspective, true loyalty is not about exclusion, but about integrity. It’s about being true to your values while honoring the freedom and individuality of others.
- Loyalty Rooted in Fear vs. Love
- Fear-based loyalty says: If you associate with people I dislike, you are betraying me.
- Love-based loyalty says: I trust your heart and respect your choices, even if they differ from mine.
- The Illusion of Separation
- Your friend may see relationships in a “us vs. them” way, where being loyal means choosing sides.
- You recognize that all beings are interconnected—we don’t have to create separation to be true to those we love.
- Boundaries vs. Control
- It’s okay for your friend to have personal boundaries—they may not want to associate with certain people for their own reasons.
- But expecting you to mirror their boundaries crosses into control rather than mutual respect.
How to Navigate This as a Healer
- Affirm Your Integrity: “I value our friendship deeply, and my connection with others doesn’t take away from that.”
- Help Them See the Bigger Picture: “I don’t see friendships as choosing sides. If I build bridges, it doesn’t mean I’m tearing ours down.”
- Respect Their Feelings, But Hold Your Truth: “I understand this is important to you, and I honor that. At the same time, I hope you trust my heart in this.”
This can be an opportunity for healing and expansion—if they are open to it. If not, that’s also their journey to walk.